No More Faking It

Law of Attraction. Like begets like. Birds of a feather flock together.
As I prepare for this next chapter of my life, I’m finding myself surrounded by this message that I need to start looking and acting the part, if I want the part. And while it naturally makes sense, I think I have been taking for granted looking the part as well as acting the part. I believe I’m still living under the pretense that once I get the part, that these things will just fall into place. 
When I got my job as a part-time administrative assistant at an after-school program almost three years ago, I had made a conscious effort to dress nice for work. I was wearing skirts and heels in the dead of winter and dressing professionally in an atmosphere where everyone else was dressed in jeans and sneakers. For the four hours a day that I worked, I took great pride into my wardrobe selection. I was buying dress pants, selecting heels, and picking out my blouses the night before. I would spend sometimes an hour or two getting dressed to go in during the afternoons. 
Needless to say, my supervisor and eventual friend, held me to a higher standard than he did everyone else under his supervision. My impact, given that I had very minimal tasks, was felt, causing him to struggle to find a replacement once I left. 
And when I started my new job, as a full-time credentialing specialist, I found myself trying to make the same efforts and coming up with a determination of what business casual looks like. Very quickly, I gave up my heels in replacement for flats as to not feel overdressed. I switched out skirts for dress pants. And before long, I was doing a cardigan and tank top combo to accompany my pants. Without even noticing it, the effort I had made at the beginning of my employment in the mornings, had disappeared. I was rotating the same pants in and out of my wardrobe, along with cardigans, and tank tops. I had a staple pair of flats and boots I would wear. I was no longer concerned with wearing the same outfit over and over again, like I had been at my previous employment. 
Yet as I commuted to work this morning, I found myself aware that rather than looking and acting the part, I was waiting for the part. I was waiting for the part so I could finally act and look it. And that’s not what law of attraction dictates, nor what like begets like and birds of a feather flock together means. I think I have officially found the root of my frustrations.
As much as I am ready for this next chapter of my life and ready to earn the part of a lifetime, that I know is destined for me, I’m not going to be able to acquire it until I shape up. So no more repetition of the same outfit and not thinking twice about what shoes I slip onto my feet in the mornings before heading out on my commute. 
I am in no way saying that tomorrow morning I will pick out a skirt and pair it with heels and a blazer, dab a little makeup on my face, and head out to work and start dressing and acting the part. What I am saying is, now that I’m cognizant, I can now begin to start to make the changes necessary to get me to that place where I will be able to earn the part that I desire. 
No more faking it until I make it. It’s time to just make it and let the opportunities fall on my lap as a result of it.

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2 thoughts on “No More Faking It

  1. EmBe Writes says:

    The law of attraction is definitely an interesting concept, and like yourself I can definitely say that it works. I’m glad you are noticing the messages around you, and paying attention – trust that those messages are leading you in the direction you are suppose to go, and know that it will all work out for the best. Many of my clients come to me not realizing how important this factor is, and that doubt is what prevents them from happiness and growth. If you don’t believe in yourself – no one else will. It’s a hard lesson to learn but, is very true.

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